Are you hurt!!! Check your expectation management

Why do we get hurt? Why do we feel disappointed? Why do we feel low? When your expectations in regards with a person, a situation, a work or take any given environment are not fulfilled or matched, your mind makes you feel low and disappointed. It was on those expected assumptions (I will call it unrealistic and emotional expectations looking out from the other) that you had presumed and thus visualized a small future. Now when those levels of expectations are not fulfilled you get hurt! Feel disappointed! Feel low and depressed!

If anything of this is coming across your way – check your expectation graph. If you are Expectation management skills are best you are blessed.

When I talk about expectation management what am I really trying to convey?

Human beings are social animals, we love to socialize and live together. Unity, peace and love are what we all are working for consciously or unconsciously. Having the ability to show our feelings and emotions for others makes us so different. We are able to communicate ourselves to others and open our heart. Trust, faith and deep bonding between the two or group starts to develop. A gradual process, needs lot of nurturing, care, affection, hearing each other and always being there when needed. Blended with different emotions the bonding becomes so strong that we have blind faith for the relation.

This is good as well bad!!! I speak of this because, now here your attachment is so strong that at times we take the other PERSON for GRANTED. Thus, on several occasions we take decisions for other person assuming that he/she will agree or disagree. Based on the bonding you start to assume the relationship strength. Our heart is taking decision based on the emotions and in-depth bonding of a relation. You take this decision because you know the other deep within; you set an expectation standard for the relation and feel that he/she will never go below that level.

WARNING!!! This is were you are setting/exposing yourself for the unexpected big blow that will make you go down for couple of hours/days/weeks/months or years.

..Depending upon what expectation levels you have set which is going to tear you apart.

Every individual needs freedom, needs time for the self, needs to spend time alone, needs some privacy……… don’t take decisions for others based on any platform. Who knows if the decision taken by you agreed? Don’t dream a future assuming that the other is forever there. Don’t get depended on others that you hurt yourself.

Normal tendency of any relationships get molded in such a manner that we start to expect something or the other. When the expectation level fails, we get hurt / disappointed and start feeling low. Despite of knowing of all the management fundas and how not to get hurt….. we still give it a try! WHY emotional attachment is very powerful, its way too powerful. It can take only couple of minutes to get emotionally attached to someone whom you never know while it takes ages still you are never emotionally attached.

Wonderstruck human mind is so confusing/complex.

Problem every one of us is facing, we demand too much from others and when they fail to reach that level our mind starts to dance in and out. With a strong belief that every problem has a solution and so does this expectation management has!

Have clarity of what you are expecting? Do you really need to expect something!!! Ask yourself?

Humans are blessed with such beautiful gifts. The most amazing thing of it is that very few of us are really aware what they have been gifted with. One of it, which I would like to talk about, is…. spirituality

We are the only species on the globe that can keep its spinal cord straight in a seated position. When you meditate keeping your spinal cord straight you are connected with the cosmic energy that starts flowing throughout your body. The energy-received in turn blesses you with peace of mind, love, and oneness. Bringing you close to divine. Regular practice will change your perception to the world and you can see divine in everyone.

The best way to check your expectation management, the only reason to discuss about meditation is to promote better mental health. The path of Non-attachment will lead you to a blessed life.

Today I can write about this because I myself have experienced the power of meditation and the ever-flowing cosmic energy.

For the Divine
Love
Anand